Preparing for fatherhood is not for the weak of hearts. Mother starts preparing for the arrival of their babies from the day they come to know about their pregnancy. While it is true that mothers are the most affected by the babies, fathers are not immunes. In this day and age, children are brought up by the hard work of both parents. Fathers cannot leave the responsibility of their kids to the mothers. They are equally responsible.
No doubt, parenting is tough, but you can make it seem effortless by preparing for the future at the right time. It is a long process, and nobody can be perfect, but preparing for it will help you somewhat ace it. The main goal of parenting is to teach your child to be independent and stand on his own rather than depending on you.
How can one Prepare for Fatherhood?
Most of the time, fathers put the responsibility of raising the child on their mothers. This is not good. It is a known fact that fathers are scared, but it is not a reason to neglect your duties. Many tips will help you build a relationship with your soon-to-be-born child and the mother of your child. The mother might be your partner, but she is, first and foremost, a mother, so you must build a relationship with her. It will also help her and you too.
Tips & Tricks
There are not many tips to help you be better prepared for fatherhood, but this will help you build a relationship with your unborn child:
· Division of Labor
Before anything else, remember that the child is yours too. Do not under any circumstances ask your partner to do all the work and remain absent. Mothers carry the child for nine months and are tired all the time while doing so. If, after birth, they are the only ones doing the labor, it will upset her mental health and the overall vibe of your home. Before birth, divide the labor between you and the partner.
By dividing the labor before birth, you will have one less thing to worry about. In the early days, babies can’t fall asleep at night. Do not put that responsibility on the mother and try to wake up too so that both of you have adequate hours of sleep and can function better in the day. Remember that there will be days when the mother might want to take a day off to have time for herself. Let her have that time so she can regroup.
Buying clothing for a child is daunting as well as exciting. Mothers enjoy the time it takes to shop for the baby’s clothing. Go shopping with her and make it a whole day excursion. This will give the mother time to enjoy, and you can shop clothing that you like for the baby to wear. This will make you feel good when the baby will wear the clothing you bought.
Buy many onesies because any other clothing will prove difficult when you try to put it on your baby. Buy gender-neutral clothing so that it can be worn regardless of the gender of the baby. Also, consider the season of the birth month. This will be quite helpful after the birth.
· Diaper Stocking
Diapers are expensive, and the baby goes through more than a dozen a day during the early days. You might think of buying the diapers after the baby is born, do not do that. It will be uneconomical. Follow the system you have made before the birth.
Also, take turns changing the diaper. Do not let the mother do all the work or do it yourself; it will be inefficient. By taking turns, you will relieve each other for some time.
· Baby Proofing
Keeping the baby out of harm’s way is a very serious business. It is true that baby proofing will not be useful till the baby starts to crawl or walk but still doing baby proofing earlier will save you from many hassles. Do it before the time comes so that you can enjoy it rather than being worried when the baby starts to crawl.
· Economic Preparation
Babies are expensive. From hospital to diapers, everything needs money. Settle all your accounts before the baby is born so that you can save money for the baby essentials. Pay all the bills before so that you can enjoy all the moments with your baby once it’s born without being worried.
· Enjoy While You Can
Once the baby is born, all your time will be spent taking care of it. You would not have time for anything else during the early months. Take time to go on dates with your partner. Urge them to spend time with friends before birth and connect with your friends. After the baby is born, enjoy the first few months with it and then sometimes start to go out again.
The baby is a being you should enjoy your time with; it is not a shackle to bind you. Take turns with your partner is going out once the baby is born. Arrange a babysitter, a family member specifically, who can take care of the baby. At the same time, you and your partner can enjoy time with each other.
Preparing for fatherhood will not be easy, but you should not give up. Your baby and your partner might need you. Prepare yourself as early as possible. Once the baby is born, there would not be any time for preparation. Your partner will want you to be there for them and the baby so that they can rest every once in a while. By taking care of the baby, you will also be making beautiful memories that you can share with your kid later. Lastly, enjoy every moment as this time will not come again.